Author: Shannon Johnson, Media Specialist, TrueWellness
“We call them friends.”
It's a simple phrase, but it says everything about the atmosphere Program Director Marshall Skule and a dedicated team of volunteers have created at Among Friends in River Falls.
Formed in 2017, the daytime social respite program offers a safe and fun environment for individuals experiencing mild to moderate dementia and their caregivers.
Over the years, word spread. One friend turned into 10, and four volunteers turned into 18.
“It just grew into a very viable program,” said Skule.
Twice a week, individuals living with dementia aren't defined by their diagnosis. They're friends who gather to laugh, play games, enjoy music, dance and build meaningful connections.
“The whole theme we had behind it was that everybody has to have fun and at least one belly laugh for the day,” said Skule.
Achieving that belly laugh is no trouble at all, especially when they play a game of Hangman.
“They just absolutely love it when I screw up,” said Skule.
But what does spell trouble? A little friendly competition. When it comes to games, these friends like to win.
“I will say that our friends are very competitive with each other,” Skule laughed.
More than a day of fun
While the program offers a safe space for those living with dementia, it also provides invaluable time for caregivers to recharge. Caring for a loved one with dementia can be a tremendous responsibility. So, knowing someone you trust is looking after your loved one, that can make all the difference.
“They feel so comfortable bringing their loved ones to us. They don’t have to worry a lick about anything,” said Skule.
That’s because they are in great hands, thanks to the many volunteers who’ve stepped up to help.
“They are absolutely remarkable volunteers. They care deeply about our friends,” said Skule.
For some friends, the program becomes part of their routine for several months, even up to a year before their needs require a move into a care facility. And while the program can't change the course of dementia, Skule believes the social connections and activities help individuals remain at home longer.
But the impact reaches far beyond the program's 10 participants.
During a presentation to Power of 100 in River Falls, Skule asked the audience how many people knew someone living with dementia. Of the 120 people in attendance, more than 100 raised their hands.
“People know about it, but not as many people know about us. And we just want to get that out as much as possible,” he said.
Over the years, friends have come and gone, but the connections built in the basement of First Congregational Church will last a lifetime. It has certainly made its mark on Marshall Skule.
“This is one of the most gratifying things I’ve done in my life, and I’m 73 years old and I’ve done a lot.”
Building friendships, one belly laugh at a time
Among Friends is open Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. and is open to residents living in St. Croix and Pierce Counties.
Skule says Among Friends is always welcoming volunteers. The program does have a short waitlist, but Skule says they would love to welcome new friends and see the program continue to grow in community, friendship and fun.
If you’re interested in learning more about Among Friends, head to their website https://www.amongfriendsrf.com/. You can also call or text 715-293-2561.